We talk so much about “red flags” these days that sometimes we forget what green flags look like — what healthy love really feels like.

A healthy relationship isn’t about perfection or constant romance. It’s not about having the same opinions or agreeing on everything. It’s about feeling safe — emotionally, mentally, and even in silence. It’s two people choosing each other, even when it’s not convenient, even when it’s hard.

In a healthy relationship, communication isn’t a guessing game. You don’t have to decode mixed signals or overthink every text. You can say, “I’m upset,” or “I need space,” and the other person doesn’t take it as an attack. They listen — really listen — because they care more about understanding you than “winning” the argument.

There’s trust — not the kind that demands constant proof, but the kind that grows from consistency. You don’t need to check their phone because their actions already match their words.

You both still have your own lives. Your happiness doesn’t depend entirely on them. You still chase your goals, see your friends, and grow as individuals. A healthy relationship doesn’t shrink you; it helps you become more of who you are.

There’s effort too — not just during the honeymoon phase, but months and years later. Effort in showing appreciation, in apologizing when you’re wrong, in making time when life gets busy. Love in healthy relationships is steady, not chaotic. It’s calm, not confusing.

And maybe that’s what makes it so rare — we’ve grown so used to drama that peace feels unfamiliar. But peace is the point.

So, if you ever wonder whether you’re in something healthy, ask yourself this:
Do I feel safe? Do I feel seen? Do I feel supported?

Because real love won’t leave you guessing — it’ll meet you halfway.